Okay, we all know that 2020 was a bust. Any goals we had had to be completely overhauled, a lesson in how to flow in life even when everything goes in a completely opposite direction. Of course we could dwell some more on the dumpster fire that was 2020 but the truth is that most of the issues that we encountered in 2020 aren’t just going to disappear. We still have to deal in the US with a change in administration which was delayed, there is still a pandemic going on and in spite of what the stock market says, economies are going to take a long long time to recover from. Kids are probably not going to go back to school, many people are still going to be juggling schooling their own kids, working and trying to pick up all of the pieces of lost jobs, lost loved ones and for many of us, a lose of direction.
I was privaliaged, though I was able to work from home though the pandemic, my company closed on December 31st but as I write this I have a few different opportunities in the works and amazing references. I have decided to look at 2020 as a refresher lesson in remembering that our plans, goals and life needs to be able to change and if we learn how to change with it, our chances of landing on our feet increase exponentially.
But as a firm believer that toxic positivity is one of the worst things to infiltrate the wellness community since skinny white girls promoting fitness, positivity isn’t the only thing that you need to make a good year. There is a lot of work that goes into making an even normal year go the way that you want it to and make it progress forward instead of going backward or staying stagnant.
A Proper Planner
We all know how big of a fan I am of a proper planner or agenda. I always find it very….disconcerting when people say that they don’t need one. How to they remember everything they have to do? How do they get places on time? What about doctors appointments or even scheduling their time properly? Every time I ask these people they say that they just remember. But the truth is that these are the people that are always late, that always forget something….or just that don’t have a ton of things going on to remember. They are the people that are fine with flying by the seams of their pants. I am not one of those people.
I believe in planners. I believe in valuing my time and the time of other people. A planner helps me do that and helps take things off my mind and having to remember. That frees up my mind for other, most of the time higher level thinking. I put everything in here from my witchy rituals to my training plans for running to my work tasks.
My absolute favorite is the Getting Stuff Done planner by CDG London. I have recently purchased their agenda as well so that I can refill it with the same pages that I love. This is a great layout with space for to do lists and built in sections for things like exercise, water intake, expenses and a brain dump section for random thoughts. I also purchased their meal planning inserts so that I can food log (Helps makes sure that I’m eating enough for my training and helps with my ED recovery journey.
A Journal/ Journaling Prompt Books
Journaling is such a good habit in general. Its so good for you mentally and helps with not only reflection but being able to build and heal yourself (With the right prompts of course). I have never met a therapist or mental health specialist, along with sports training and the like, who have not recommended journaling. My journal tends to include things like the books and gratitude logs that I’ve read but I also have devoted this year to making sure I journal everyday. Things I include in my journal every day?
- Books read
- Ted talks/ podcasts listened to
- Gratitude Log
- Journal prompt/ response (From a book like the ones coming up)
- People watching observations/ writing observation
The range of things that you can include in a journal is endless but I have tried to keep it more simple lately with books that help my focus on different areas. In 2020 I journaled with prompts 2-3 times a week in the Being In Your Body Journaling book by which is absolutely great for people that suffer from Body Dysmorphia and/ or past ED issues. In 2021 I have decided to kick it up a notch with Soul Therapy to Journal every day on a broader range of topics.
One of my favorite journals is by a stationary company called Paiper. The paper quality is great, you can customize the covers with your own text and hard or soft cover. It comes in lined, plain, or bullet paper which I find to be super important. This is something that you are going to keep with you all year so it should be beautiful (And in my case match my agenda)
An Updated Resume
Okay so its not as fun as notebook shopping but the first day of the year or the first week is the perfect time to sit down and take a look at your resume and your linkdin. Updating this is actually super important, most of all right now when so many people are out there looking for jobs. A clear, concise but stunning resume is something that you always should have ready, even if you aren’t out there actively looking for a job. I have been told a few times how stunning my resume is because I love to use a thesaurus but also because I invested in actually going onto Etsy a few years ago and invested $5 in a proper, stunning layout that I can constantly update. It also came with a matching cover letter and reference letter layout. Honest to goodness I get so many compliments on it and it is so much more eye catching then the standard word document.
I have never actually been a big fan of linkdin. I find it super annoying and just another social media thing I need to check on that I would rather not. But when I had a resume in a few weeks ago, I got a call from the hiring manager asking if I lived in San Antonio. I told them, no? It clearly states where I live now on my resume. They commented that my “link” said San Antonio. “Link?” I asked. I would never put a link in my resume….but they meant my linkdin. I had updated everything on it….accept my city. Shit.
A New Hobby
Just because you are an adult doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t try as many new things as you possibly can. Being an adult isn’t about just sitting there with a cup of whiskey thinking ‘yes yes. This is what I’ve been waiting for’. Its about being able to do what you want to do and having the money to do it or at least part of it. Hobbies are something that for a while I forgot that I was allowed to have but what’s the point in just waking up, going to work, coming home, vegging in front of the TV, going to bed, then waking up to do it all over again.
Hobbies are important. Keeping your brain working and learning is important and will help later with aging and honestly just making you a more well rounded, happier, more interesting person. I am lucky in the sense that I have free time (I don’t have any kids) and enough money to try at least one thing new when I want to. But it doesn’t take tons of money to try some new things and honestly if you do have kids, having some you time is extremely good for your mental health, even if its just for an hour once a week.
Here are some new hobbies to try thing year:
- A book club
- pottery class
- rock climbing
- Candle making
- Mediation/ yoga/ sound bowls
- Learn a new language
- Learn a new instrument
Just to name a few with a wide range of both physical, creative and academic.
I love the mark of new year, just because it does feel easier to have a beginning and end. That is human nature. nd while we can’t predict what is going to happen in 2021 (Obviously we shouldn’t have tried with 2020!) it is important to remember that small things and happy hobbies help and that life events, markers and time with those we love is sacred and can be reimagined no matter what.