Lets Talk about Sex(-ual) Health

There are so many things that we as women don’t talk about…at least not until its too late.  Truth be told I don’t remember talking much about my feminine health as a young woman, which is really strange considering right out of the gate at 12 years old I had a cyst removed from my ovaries.  Most of my friends hadn’t even gotten their periods yet and I was embarrassed.  Not only had I gotten my period, I had something ‘wrong’ with me.  

I have often felt this way and have since I was a little girl.  My boobs came in early, I started having to shave before all of my friends.  One of my earliest memories as a little girl was of the girl next store to me who had been my best friend for many years, bringing her new, older and more sophisticated friends over.  We were playing truth or dare and they went into my underwear drawer, took out a pair of my underwear and asked me if I knew what the bloodstain was.  I was embarrassed and uncomfortable.  I didn’t know what was wrong with me.  

We don’t talk to little girls or young women about this part of their health.  It is most certainly a carryover from how our Judo Christian society has always demonized the feminine.  Things have changed…but not very much.  

So what should you know?  

Tampons vs Pads vs Menstrual cups

I cant even tell you on how many levels I hate tampons and pads.  I find them super uncomfortable and even though there are the most common products, they are disgusting and not the only option.  Heck, they don’t even tell you really how to use them.  How are you supposed to know what size to wear or how many grams you’re putting out?  Not to mention that I find pads and tampons wasteful. Think about how many you use, all of their packaging ect.  If you’re not a huge environmentalist though, consider how many chemicals and how much bleach is that close to the most hyper-absorbent part of your body.  

For a while I thought that these were the only options for me.  Then I fund the Mentrual cup.  I love my Saalt cup and while it took some time to get used to putting it in, that all was changed with practice and education.  No waste, I can actually see what my body is doing, less leaking and I wont have to buy tampons for ten years (Warrenty)?  Yes Please.

Why You Should Track Your Period

I used to think that tracking your period was just for people that were trying to get pregnant.  Not so.  You should track your period so that you know what kind of cycle you’re having and if you are having hormonal problems.  Keep in mind that even if you aren’t bleeding, it doesn’t mean that your body isn’t doing anything or going through a cycle.   

Symptoms of Your Hormonal Cycle That Aren’t Bleeding: headaches, fatigue, cramps, moodiness, insomnia, and tender breasts.

But why wouldn’t you be bleeding? There are a few reasons and only one of them is pregnancy.  There are a host of other reasons why you might not be breaking out your menstrual cup including Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, Birth control, physical or psychological stress, anemia or a nutritional imbalance.

Problems you don’t want to talk about

Bumps: Bumps are not always something to worry about but they should be talked about with your doctor and OBGYN.  The skin is not a flat surface and it is more than what you see.  Little bumps of fluid and liquid can build up in tissue causing cysts.  This can happen pretty much anywhere.  I was embarrassed about this and left one on my labia.  It became so painful that I couldn’t sit.  I ended up going to the doctor and they had to cut it out and biopsy it.  Don’t let it get this far.  While many are just backups in your skin, they can be cancerous.  

Bloating: Many women experience bloating and ignore it, not realizing that it can mean something is off. Bloating can be a symptom of your digestive system, but it can also point to issues with your ovaries or your uterus. If you have a cyst on your ovaries, or inflammation in your pelvis, this can lead to bloating and abdominal pain.

Pain During Intercourse: Sex should not be painful.  If it is it could mean a few things.  Lesions in the cervix, ovarian cysts or endodemeterious.  Consult your OB.  

Products/ Remedies I Would Recommend:

Apple Cider Vinegar: Put a cup of this into your bathtub to help balance your lady parts natural ph.

Woman’s Moon Cycle Tea: Sooth those aches and that fatigue with this herbal tea.

Saalt Cup: Ditch those nasty pads and tampons for this cleaner, waste-free menstrual cup.

Yoga for Your Hoo Ha :  The vagina is a muscle.  Stretching can help.

Flo Period Tracking App: On your phone and easy, you can log in your symptoms, any travel that you have had, days and types of bleeding, exercise and some other important information so that you can better predict your period.

Take Away

There is so much more that I could say about this topic.  But my major take away from this is that you need to pay attention to your body.  There is nothing gross or shameful about how a woman’s body works (Okay so may somethings are gross but certainly not shameful).  If you feel like there is something that you want to know about, be sure to talk to your OBGYN about it without holding back.  Nothing you can say they haven’t heard.  

Don’t feel confined to the products that people tell you to use.  Do your own research and experiment to find what works best for you.

Note that nothing mentioned on here is sponsored as I am just a little blogger and don’t have sponsorers.  

What are some of the things that you do or like for your period?  Leave recommendations for others.

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There is a time in our lives when we figure out that we are adults. When that time is...we sometimes don't know. Even at 32. I'm just a young woman trying to restart and learn how to live as an adult after years of just making ends meet. Coming out of a divorce was something horrid for my plans, but opening up to my authentic self and finding joy in the things I love has been a huge step forward. Becoming an adult isn't about the age you are at, but being comfortable in what you do, what you love and who you are. Marathoner Certified Nutrition Coach (Pn1) Writer Cook Pocket Philosopher

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